
Wednesday, May 27, 2009
Referral Day Recap-Whew!

We Accept!
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
What Can Brown Do For You?
Four happy kiddos that can't wait to meet their sister!
Monday, May 25, 2009
Sunday, May 24, 2009
The Things We'll Do For a Merit Badge!
Saturday, May 23, 2009
Congratulations, Aunt Nini!
Friday, May 22, 2009
Miracle #5 Has Arrived!!!


Chinese Name: Fu Yan Cong
Soon to Be: Meili Grace YanCong Bouton
Birthdate: 06/07/08 11.5 months old! (Is that a cool birthdate, or what?)
Province: Jiangxi, Fu Zhou Social Welfare Institute
We can't wait to hold her in our arms and kiss those cheeks!
THANK YOU! to the People's Republic of China for this indescribable gift, to a loving Heavenly Father who is finishing what He started, and to our wonderful friends and family for your continued prayers and support!
Details Coming Soon....Promise!
Meili's Referral Pics-World Tour 2009
We met my mom and two sisters at a nail salon to prep for graduation the next day, so that's where they saw her for the first time. Here's Aunt Nini getting ready for her big day!
Thursday, May 21, 2009
Will He Make It?
Somebody Pinch Me-THIS IS IT!!!!
The Stork Has Landed! If you have received this email we are pleased to announce that we have received your referral! Congratulations!
We are EXTREMELY busy getting everything prepared to contact you (sorting referrals, scanning your pictures, etc!) So, that all of you will have your child’s photo today! **We will contact each family by phone today and also email you your child’s photo!
We are working as quickly as we can to bring your referral to you! We thank ALL of you for your continued patience and support!
Congratulations!
We're In!!!!!
- Our agency emailed this morning saying that CCAA had confirmed that referrals were issued with a cutoff date of 3/14/06. They are expecting to receive our referral today!!!
- We went to Taylor's 8th grade promotion this am from 7:30-8:30. Can't believe that my baby boy will go to high school next year!
- We didn't know that he didn't have any school today after the promotion ceremony so we had to tell him that TODAY IS THE DAY! on the ride home. Xander surprised us with how excited he was to hear the news. He yelled, 'THIS IS THE BEST DAY EVER!!!' at the top of his lungs. He is SO ready to be a big brother.
- Came home to check email and found info above.
- I added our info to the 'Babies Post' on RQ and blubbered like a baby while I did it. Just still doesn't seem real. I'm not sure how I'm going to make it through the referral call.
- No 'Stork Has Landed' email yet. But we are expecting it any minute!
- All that chocolate preparation and I can't even eat it. My stomach is in knots.
- Matt is out front replacing a sensor on his car, cool as a cucumber.
- Early in the process, I made a CD of songs that reminded us of Meili. It feels different to listen to it today...:o)
Is Today THE Day?
If it's not, I'm going to have to be hauled away to the looney bin in restraints!
Here's what we know:
- Our agency expects to receive a package (THE package!) by 1 pm central time (which is 11 am our time) but history tells us that it may arrive any time between 10 and 2 (which is between 8 and 12 for us.)
- The agency will send out a 'STORK HAS LANDED' email just before they begin to make calls. When I see that email come in, I'm going to be wearing depends and breathing into a paper sack...;o)
- After all the worry about what to do if the call came while Matt was at work, he just happens to have the day off today. No plan-just coincidence!
- We will be at Taylor's 8th grade promotion from 7:30-8:30 am so I hope the call doesn't come then. But just in case, I'll have a camera in one had and videocamera in the other...luckily, so will all the other parents.
- Our children have NO IDEA that referrals are eminent. Today is the last day of school for them and they have been really sad that another school year is about to wrap up and they still don't have a picture of their sister to share with their friends. We have received permission from Noah's and Audrey's teachers to pop into their classrooms with a picture tomorrow ***IF*** we have one before the school day is over!
- At 1 pm, Matt and I have to go to the police station to be fingerprinted for our home study update so we hope to have some info before then or it will be hard to leave the house.
- Shortly after kids get home from school, Noah and I are heading to the Taylor Swift concert so dreams are coming true on a number of levels for certain family members today! This is so not what I had in mind for a referral night celebration (I loathe anything remotely Country) but I love ALL of my children and this is as big as it gets for #3.
- We may not post a pic for a few days here on the blog so be patient with us. We want to take some time to take it all in and share it in person and by email with several friends and family members before throwing it out here for the general public and it might take the weekend to do so. We have been looking forward to this day for SOOOO long that we plan to milk it for all that it's worth. ;o)
Wednesday, May 20, 2009
Hope I Don't Jinx Things By Posting This...
... but it looks like THE STORK IS FLYING!!! There are several European countries as well as a couple of US agencies reporting that the cut off date is March 14th! We are logged in on the 10th and our friends are logged in on the 13th so this is GREAT news!!! Several agencies are also reporting that referrals have been mailed and there is actually a report that an agency in Denmark has already received referrals. It is very likely that we will recieve THE CALL on Thursday!!!The last several weeks have been rough. There were reports that referrals may be delayed until September due to the swine flu. None of this was confirmed by our agency but when your 6-8 month adoption stretches into it's 39th month, you start to put some stock in worse case scenarios. I've seen the end of my rope and it's not a fun place to be.
So, this news comes completely out of left field for us and it's hard not to think it's too good to be true. Hopefully the next 48 hours will prove otherwise and the little girl that we have been dreaming about for years will finally have a face!
***UPDATE*** Our agency is expecting a package on Thursday...I BELIEVE! I BELIEVE!
Thursday, May 14, 2009
Monday, May 11, 2009
And It Just Keeps Getting Better, Folks...
Even after all of this, I was still optimistic for good news this morning and the possiblity of seeing a referral this week, especially since the pig flu news seemed to be less panic-inducing and on the decline. Instead, we woke up to news that there was a confirmed case of the pig flu in mainland China and this person had recently flown in from the US. Great. To add insult to injury, it looks like China has suspended issuing Visas and will not honor some that have already been issued. The following is a quote from an RQ post. I believe the poster works for a large travel agency in France:
"We have been passed information from the Chinese visa application centre today that due to recent events regarding the Swine Flu outbreak, the Chinese Embassy are suspending the issue of visas to certain applicants. This applies to travelers holding passports with entry / exit stamps in their passport (anytime from the 20th April and onwards) to the following countries: Mexico, Spain, USA and Canada." We have been advised this change applies to both new applicants and any travelers holding existing valid Chinese visas. The Chinese authorities have also advised us that there is a strong possibility clients arriving in China by
flight, on a previously issued visa, may be refused entry by Immigration officials, if their passport shows any evidence of recent travel to any of the above countries. Please be aware that this information is yet to be updated on the Chinese Embassy's website, but we will of course keep you updated if we receive anyfurther news regarding this situation"
Our agency has been sending out daily emails, even if just to say that they have no new news. So far, nothing today. Still praying that things will work out sooner than later. Sadly, it's all that we can do right now.
On a lighter note, we spent a great day together as a family yesterday. Matt made a wonderful Mother's Day breakfast including homemade cinnamon rolls. He rolled them up short-ways instead of long-ways so they turned out HUGE, but nobody complained. (Yes, he bakes-and sometimes answers to 'Mathew Stewart.') We went to church mid-day and the kids sang in sacrament meeting. I'm not sure they knew half of the words but they were certainly cute standing up there. After church, we took a much needed nap and then headed out to a symphony concert in the park. On the drive home at about 8:30 pm, it was still about 94 degrees! We came home and ate brownie sundaes for dinner-perfect!
One of the positive things that have come through this crazy wait is that I hug the 4 kiddos that we have at home a little tighter, appreciate them more and try to enjoy the small things and the quiet moments with them. I found a plaque the other day that said, "My greatest blessings call me Mom" and that's exactly how I feel.
Wednesday, May 06, 2009
Tuesday, May 05, 2009
If Hell Were Personalized...
Anyway, I change my mind. I am a problem solver by nature and somewhat of a control freak so you can imagine how the current adoption situation we find ourselves in makes me feel. Our baby has been born. She is in China. She is in an orphanage. We don't know who she is but we have loved her for a very long time. I have no idea about the standard of care that she is receiving. Her file has been prepared. It is sitting on a desk. She is ready to be matched with a family and to come home but the whole process is at a stand still. And there is not a darn thing I can do about it. I can stuff my face with chocolate, make lists and buy diaperbags all day long but it's not going to bring her home any faster. I'm tired of waiting. I'm even tired of complaining about waiting, believe it or not. I know that it will all work out as it is supposed to in the end. But in the meantime, this is hell.
Monday, May 04, 2009
Well, it's official...
Thursday, April 30, 2009
Happy Birthday Audrey!
A Little Bit of Hope
Clear as Mud
Date of Release: April 30,2009 Source: CC*A
Adoption agencies:
Currently there are cases of human infection of the swine flu found in some countries and regions. With the high infectivity of this disease, children are susceptible to it for their low resistance. In order to avoid cross infection during the process of adoption registration and protect the health of children in orphanages as well as the adoptive parents, we hereby announce that:
Adoption agencies are required to counsel the adoptive parents who have received Notice of Coming to China for Adoption to postpone their trip to China for the registration procedure.
The validity period of Notice of Coming to China for Adoption issued between March 1 to April 30 this year is prolonged from three months to five months (There is no need to update the paper).
Adoptive families are advised to follow the arrangement of local registration authorities and cooperate during the entrustment of child for the harmony period and the adoption registration process.
If adoptive parents feel unwell during their stay in China for the registration procedure, they shall go to the hospital for medical checkup in time and report to CCAA about relevant situation.
Thank you for your understanding and cooperation.
Wednesday, April 29, 2009
Not Sure What To Think
My thought for the day: "Adoption is not for sissies!!!"
What Next???
Tuesday, April 28, 2009
All's Quiet on the Adoption Front...
Monday, April 27, 2009
An Amazing Gift...
Is this our week?
*UPDATE: Our agency sent an email earlier today that said that they have not received any updates from CC*A-no indication that matching has begun, no news about packages being sent, nothing about a possible cut-off date. No worries-this could still be our week. Last month, they still had no info as referral packages arrived throughout the world. At this point, it really could be any day.
Saturday, April 25, 2009
Noah's Baptism
Thursday, April 23, 2009
The First Rumor!!!
Update: RQ has rated this rumor as an R1. Even though it probably doesn't have any merit, it is nice to be in the rumor phase of the referral cycle. It's one step closer to our call!
I'm also starting to think that there is a good chance that referrals will arrive on or near the 1st of May since there is a National holiday in China on that day (their Labor Day.) It is customary for the CC*A to clear their desks before leaving on holiday and a similar thing happened last month. Referrals began to arrive on the day that China was celebrating Qing Ming Festival.
4 Years Ago Today...
April 23rd, 2005 was our decision day. I remember the date because we were in Southern CA visiting family and they had a combo birthday party for Audrey and Noah while we were there. (The photo above was taken at the party and later included in our dossier.) While the party was going on, my brother and his wife were at the hospital having a baby. When I look at my niece, Rebecca, (Happy 4th Birthday!) it's an interesting visual of just how long we have been at this adoption.Wednesday, April 22, 2009
A Report That Matching Has Begun!
I promised to educate the masses about what happens in the matching room once we heard that matching had begun this month. We haven't heard anything directly from our agency but the first matching rumor has hit the web. It's hard to believe that after all of this time, Meili's file and our file are in the same room right now, maybe even on the same desk and some stranger for some reason will help determine which of China's precious baby girls will become our daughter...
Here's what RQ has to say about the matching process:
First, they review the baby dossiers and make sure there are no issues with them. We are told that they then count up all of the baby dossiers that are eligible for matching that month and then look to see how far this stack will go in the parent dossiers without sending out a partial day, and they pull all of those parent files. That is the likely cut-off date. Sometimes something happens and they don't get this far. Sometimes something happens and they get farther.
Next they match orphanages up with agencies. This orphanage has six babies, this agency has six families. These two orphanages are in the same province and have a total of 12 babies, this agency has 12 families. When they are through with this is when (I believe) some agencies start to get information about the cut-off date. Or at least it is when they used to start getting information.
And then they start matching individual babies to individual families. At some point during this part of the process most agencies used to hear from their person in the matching room to let them know how many referrals they will be receiving and from what province(s). Some agencies shared this information with their clients. Some chose not to. Recently I’ve gotten the feeling that many agencies are still getting this information but they are being given orders by the CCAA to not share this information with the families.
Just as in the review room, each matcher is assigned certain agencies and is responsible for communicating with their agencies. Some matchers tell their agency the cut-off date, some matchers tell their agency “you have X number of referrals arriving”, some matchers give their agency a list of that agency’s families that will be receiving a referral. And some matchers don’t say anything at all to their agencies.
The next question that comes up is generally how the matchers match families and babies. I’ve heard from several people who have had the opportunity to speak with someone who works in the matching room. The various conversations seem to all agree that they first look for something that stands out: a matching birthday, a baby who looks a lot like a parent, or a baby who likes music and a parent who teaches music. Several matching people have stated they match by bone structure of the baby’s face and the parent’s faces (this is why they need our passport photos, so they can compare our mug shot with the baby’s mug shot). Some have stated that they used Chinese astrology, also. Once they’ve matched the obvious matches they then start to look at things like age of child requested. The age requested is not a priority for them, they feel they are matching families and not filling orders. And I have to say that they’ve done a wonderful job matching us and our Big Girl, and now I trust they will do an excellent job matching us with her little sister.
It still doesn't seem real that after all of this time the answer to the question, 'So, when do you think you will be getting your referral?' has gone from, 'Hopefully, this year.' to 'PROBABLY NEXT WEEK!!!' This is so exciting and I am so ready!
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
STORK WATCH 2009-The Monthly Cycle
- Once word hits the web that referrals are starting to arrive in various parts of the world(April 3rd and 5th last month), we wait on baited breath for confirmation of a cut off date. (Last month it was March 8th, 2006. We are March 10th!)
- Next comes the fun part. Chinese baby faces hit blogland and we celebrate with and live vicariously through those parents whose dreams have finally come true and tell ourselves that this roller coaster ride will end one happy day for us, as well. (I shared the joy a few posts back...)
- Then, based on the amount of referrals CC*A was able to squeak out for the current month, RQ comes out with a PROJECTIONS post. She looks at what the CC*A has done historically (including the previous month) and comes up with 5 different cut-off date scenarios of for the next several monthly batches. Unfortunately, the recent trend is that referral batches fall somewhere in between the first two columns. The good news is that this month, every single possible scenario includes not only us but our friends who are logged in on the 13th!

- The next question that comes to mind is WHEN the next batch of referrals will arrive. RQ saves us the mental exercise by putting out another post on the subject. Here's what she said this month: The last 12 referral batches arrived at 28, 38, 28, 35, 22, 27, 37, 36, 18, 24, 39, and 32 days. The average is 30 days, the median is 30. We see 28 twice. The shortest interval is 18 days and the longest is 39. That would mean the soonest we’d expect to see them would be Tuesday, April 21 and the latest would be Tuesday, May 12. (Based on historical data, nothing says the CCAA has to stay in this window, just that historically that’s what they’ve done.) The most likely arrival date based on time between referrals would be either Friday, May 1 or Monday, May 4.
- Then comes the part of the month that I enjoy the least. It's when we have already eeked every bit of information that we could out of the previous batch and start to look forward to rumors trickling in about the next batch only to find that there are none. To add insult to injury, this is the time of the month when RQ resorts to reviewing vampire books... This is about where we are right now. Ugh.
- The next thing that we can expect this month are random rumors about the next cut off date. These early rumors are usually very positive and ultimately false. We know this and yet there is something in us that makes us want to believe that a speed-up is around the corner and that this month might finally be the month that the early positive rumors turn out to be true. My head knows this, but my heart hasn't learned it's lesson yet.
- Eventually, our agency will notify us by email that matching has begun. When that happens this month, I'll post about how (supposedly) we are matched with a baby. Ultimately, we know that Heavenly Father has chosen the child that will become our daughter but it's still fascinating to me to learn about what 'man' has to do in order to help accomplish that.
- Within a few days of the 'matching has begun' news, we start to see rumors coming from more reliable sources about a potential cut-off date. The rumors that come later in the cycle tend to pan out more often that those that come earlier so these really tend to get our attention.
- Then, we wait to hear on the web or from our agency that a package is on the way from China. There is never confirmation that the package contains referrals but we can usually guess by the timing that it is definitely the 'Stork' in the air.
- Next, once our agency has our referral in hand, we'll receive a 'Stork Has Landed' email and expect to get THE CALL from our agency within an hour of receiving it. At this point, I fully expect to be breathing into a paper bag and wearing Depends...
- During THE CALL, we will learn Meili's given Chinese name, her (probably estimated)birthdate, her measurements at the time of the report, the province in which she lives, and whether she is in an orphanage or in foster care. There are so many unknowns. It will be nice to finally have answers to just a few of our questions.
It will be a relief to exit this cycle and begin a new adventure in parenthood but our thoughts will never be far from those who continue to wait to become parents and the children who continue to wait to become part of a family.
Tuesday, April 07, 2009
Party in Blogland!
I've been following this blog for a long time. So cool to click over there and finally see that cute little SMILING Asian face!
These women were logged in just two days before us with our same agency. So, not only have I been able to watch their dreams come true over the past few days, I've also been in on the 'on deck for referral' agency emails and now know exactly what to expect next month when it is OUR TURN! I've been taking notes such as: Agency emails that a package should arrive by 1pm. Package arrives at 10 am!....etc. So happy for you guys!
She was my awesome Secret Pal and is now the proud Mama of Lilli. What a cutie!
This fabulous woman that we've actually met in the flesh also received her referral. I'm still waiting to see her face but I think today is the day!
This blog friend (and faithful commenter!) has also received a referral for a little girl and we're waiting on the edge of our seats to see a picture!
Yesterday, some of these folks were still awaiting their referrals due to a package delivery problem. (It wasn't UPS is all I can say! FYI-Matt has made a sales pitch to our agency to switch over to 'Brown.' It may be time for a follow up...) I spent the day shampooing carpets and only let myself check the web between rooms or between water changes. It made the time go by fast and kept me motivated to finish! Who knew that chore could be so much fun!
Congratulations to all these new or 'new and improved' families!!! Wishing you safe and speedy travels to bring those babies HOME!!!
Thursday, April 02, 2009
Odds and Ends
- Just came back from a Chinese banquet put on by my Mandarin instructor at a new Chinese restaurant across town. It was an 8 course authentic adventure in Chinese cuisine and delicious! Let's just say that I'll eat just fine in China. I ate duck and lived. And serving yourself some fish while it is staring at you is really not that big of a deal... A new favorite is Cong You Bing. It's a green onion-pancake type thing-sold on the street in China apparently and a popular breakfast item in Taiwan.
- I start another 10 week Mandarin course next Thursday. My skillz have gotten rusty and I need to get back into the swing of things before we go to China. The good news is that the native Chinese that we were eating with tonight told me that my pronunciation is very good-there's hope!
- Last week we went to HIGH SCHOOL orientation for Taylor (We're officially old...), Jr. High orientation for Audrey, and registered Xander for Kindergarten. Our kids are going to be spread out over three schools next year. Add a new baby to the mix and it's going to be wild. (I can't wait!) Xander was asked to count to 100 at the registration to which he replied, "Would you like me to count by 10's or 1's?" I think he's going to be just fine... We are waiting to see if he will have full day Kindergarten or if they will have to scale back to half day to pare down the budget.
- Taylor is participating in Track this quarter. Today they had a clinic at the high school. A couple of coaches there asked Taylor for his name. He thought he was in trouble but they wanted to recruit him for Cross Country and Track at the high school next year. He's very excited!
- Audrey has announced that she wants to play volleyball. This is the first time that she has shown interest in a sport. I think she'll do great-If she stays on her current growth curve, she'll be 6' one day! We have a net set up in the back yard and she's been practicing every day. I would love to enroll her in volleyball camp this summer but still can't say for sure when we'll be in China. In fact, we can't really enroll any of the kids in anything this summer while we are in China limbo.
- Noah officially starts his baseball season this weekend. It's going to be fun to watch his games!
- On the adoption front, it looks like it's another whopping two day batch this month. That leaves just two LIDs to go before they get to us. I seriously thought that I was mentally prepared to not be in this batch but I was surprised at how upset I was at the news. Part of me REALLY wanted to be in the same batch as my March 7th and 8th blog friends. I think that makes it a bit worse-feels like the party of the century is about to happen and I'm not invited. I've had a bad two days but I'm ready to suck it up for another month. It doesn't change the fact that I'm truly happy for those who are about to see their babies' faces for the first time next week. Besides, we're NEXT!!!
- I have great friends and family. Many have called to see if we are 'in' or not this month even though they were afraid to ask. A mom of one of Audrey's friends hung her head (and half of her body) out of her car window in the drive-thru line at Mc D's yesterday just to yell, "Any news about your baby?!!!" I'm grateful that so many are still along for the ride with us.
- I'm also grateful that April of 2009 will go down in history as the busiest month we've ever had. We've got Easter, two birthdays, a baptism, two sets of houseguests, cub scouts, baseball games, two school field trips, Mandarin class, and the list goes on. It should certainly help pass the time until the next batch of referrals come out. Did I mention that we're NEXT???
Monday, March 30, 2009
Meili's Dad is Starting to Get Excited
What surprised me was that when he was done assembling the crib,
he took a look at the crib bedding in my hands and said, "I'll do it!"


